Sometimes my emotions take me completely by surprise.   Last night I discovered completely by accident that my ex sister-in-law is expecting her first child in August this year. I sat and stared at my screen with my heart racing for a full five minutes before mentioning it to my partner and trying to distract… Continue reading “Surprise!”


This week I started a Dialectical Behavioural Therapy (DBT) skills group. This is the start of my engagement in a service here that will focus on helping me manage my BPD symptoms and the reason I moved to Auckland. I feel like I have a head start having been under Community Mental Health for a… Continue reading “DBT: TIPP”


Sometimes it is in our best interests, after weighing up all options, to say enough is enough. Some people are just plain toxic and not healthy to have in your life, others are unable to connect with you in a way that you need them to. Of course this can be temporary or permanent but… Continue reading “Enough”


The therapy I am undergoing currently is called Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT).  I have linked to Wikipedia’s entry on the subject but will explain my understanding so far. I have come up with a list of values for the following aspects of my life; Parenting, personal growth, leisure, spirituality, health, work, community and environment, family relationships,… Continue reading “Acceptance”


What’s this horrendous sounding word? Is it contagious? Does it mean you’re crazy? Why don’t you just stop? …all questions I’ve heard and been asked. Trichotillomania or ‘trich’ for short, is an impulse control disorder where the person afflicted has urges to pull out their hair. Disclaimer: I am not a psychiatrist or any other… Continue reading “Trichotillomania”